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One of my friends has gotten me into the Tyler Perry films and plays in the past few months, and I am more or less hooked. Yes, I am so multi-cultural. :)

Sometimes it’s slap-stick comedy, but the stories are laced with homespun, tried and true wisdom and common sense that is so often lacking in the world.

My absolute favorite is the play “Madea Goes to Jail,” followed closely by “Diary of a Mad Black Woman” (the movie), “Family Reunion” (the movie), and “Why Did I Get Married?” (the movie). All of these are available at your local movie rental place.

Below is my all-time favorite Madea soliloquy, from “Madea Goes to Jail”. It is fantastic. Lately I have been watching this scene on repeat and can’t help but throw in Amens and Hallelujahs as Madea talks.

It’s about a 10 minute clip, and the first half is the real meat, the second half is a hilarious old school R&B montage. I’ll rate it PG-13 for mild language.

Anybody out there also find wisdom from unexpected places?


I consider myself some what of a Christian dating book connoisseur. I’ve read a lot of them, ranging the gamut from how to find a man, how to be datable, how to make your dating relationship work, what it should look like, and of course how to be a content single. I think my interest began with a search for information and education on the subject, but has since turned into a more morbid curiosity as to what people are actually suggesting. And besides, as a quarter century single myself, I have some personal interest. :)

A couple of weeks ago I was at Barnes and Noble just hanging out, and I sat at a table that had the book “He’s Just Not That Into You” by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. I’d seen the episode of Sex and the City that spawned the movement, and I’d heard a little about the concept of the book, so I was intrigued.

It’s a small book with big print, so I was able to breeze through it pretty quickly, and let me tell you, it is now a book that I would recommend first to my single female friends. Essentially, the book’s point is that women try to over-examine men and their response to them. As the book’s title makes fairly clear, in many cases when a woman tries to explain away men’s strange behavior with excuses about “fear of intimacy”, career stress, being afraid of their own emotions, family baggage or what not, it’s often a simple case of the “he’s just not that into you”s. It’s kind of the whole principle that a man would cross any mountain, swim any sea, or trek across the desert to be with the woman he wants.

It sounds harsh and unkind the first time you hear it, but the way Behrendt writes and explains it, it is quite empowering! It frees women from wasting time from anguishing over gray or muddled relationships and recognizing that they’re worth being with someone who won’t put them through emotional warfare by being noncommittal and wishy washy.

The book’s not written from a Christian perspective by any means (for example, I would hope that most mature Christians realize that “He’s just not that into you if he’s having sex with someone else” or “if he only wants to see you when he’s drunk”), but the overriding principle is applicable for so many single women I know. And moreover, even being the crazy liberal that I am, I do believe strongly in traditional gender roles within relationships, especially romantic/familial (i.e., the male is the pursuer, the female the pursued), and that is really a strong foundational philosophy of this book.

All in all, I highly recommend this book for any single woman, especially those struggling with iffy relationships or unrequited love. Too bad there isn’t a simple equivalent for men. :)

And what do you guys think? Is this a common misconception women have about men, or are men more complex than Behrendt would have us think?